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Post by newstartnow on Jun 26, 2009 19:39:01 GMT -5
I don't have children yet but my husband really wants them.
I'm worried about training a child in this world. How in the world do you keep them from taking in all the garbage that is out here?
How do you seperate them without depriving them or making them resent living a holy life?
If we are nearing the end is it even worth it to have children?
I must confess that I think about this often and the fear is probably one of the reasons I haven't conceived.
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Post by LDM on Jun 30, 2009 2:57:09 GMT -5
I can understand your concern as it is something my husband and I deal with everyday in raising our kids. There are so many times I find myself asking my children, "Where did you get that from?" as I question things they say. There are so many influences (many unGodly), that you sometimes do wonder where to draw the line. For us, it just boils down to trusting the Lord and being obedient to what we feel He leads us to do. We try to help them be wise about discerning what is of God and what is not. The bottom line is that they will not be with us all the time. From school, to friends, to family...they need to know the Lord for themselves so that they (as individuals) can stand. We have seen young people we love getting involved in fornication, drugs, etc. - and I mean young people who have been raised in the truth to know better. What really can you do? I mean, at some point, the children become responsible for their own choices. The best we can offer them is Godly oversight and a Godly example. And sometimes they may express resentment about not being able to indulge in the things of the world, but that is not my concern. Hopefully, one day they will understand. Either way, they are kids and often don't know what is best. It doesn't concern me much how they "feel" about our rules as we do this as unto the Lord since He has entrusted them to us. I would just offer that I think it is important for you and your husband to be together in this. Have you discussed your concerns with him yet? You don't want this to be an occasion for satan to sow discord between you. If you two can go to God together in prayer about this, maybe the answer will become more clear as to what you should do. Children are the heritage of the Lord. And having children teaches you almost more than anything else what sacrifice and love is about. So, there could be reasons why God would want you to have children, even considering the times we are in. Remember, God has not given us a spirit of fear. Should God decide to give you children, He will take care of them. He loves them even more than we do (as hard as that may be to imagine) and He knows what He is doing. Don't be afraid to trust Jesus in this, as you might be pleasantly surprised. I am not saying, "God is telling you to have children." I am saying that when fear/trust becomes an issue, God can often use those experiences to help deepen our faith in Him - if we will lean on Him. I know He did that with my cancer. Whatever the outcome should be for your family, He has it all worked out.
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